What would you do if the last person you dated semi-seriously was married with a bun in the oven? What would you do if you never thought of them except when they had some major life-event going on
(that you didn’t find out about until afterwards) or when they suddenly came in close proximity to you (which, again, you didn’t find out until afterwards) Basically I went out with someone AGES ago and never think of him unless something major is going on. First, I feel like I’m going to see him on a date, and then I do…his first date with the person who ended up being his WIFE. Then, one night, suddenly I couldn’t sleep because I was thinking about him and I later found out that at that time he was proposing to said gal. Then I randomly thought of him for a few days (I am so over him so this is weird) and I find out he’s in Israel.
And then, just when I’m about to go on a (first) date with some guy, he pops into my head again. I thought that was just because this was the best sounding guy I had had since the fellow in question. Comparisons or something? Anyway, there I am, out on this date, having more fun on a date than I’ve had in a LONG TIME and guess who comes strolling past? Old guy and wifey. WHY? What am I supposed to be learning from this? Its not emotional, it’s not making me nostalgic, it’s just plain WEIRD.
I know everything happens for a reason, but I don’t get it. Suggestions, anyone?
27 Comments
April 17, 2008 at 11:07 am
I’m not entirely sure what you’re asking. So you’re meeting people you used to date who are now married.
April 17, 2008 at 1:07 pm
Well now I am asking 2 questions:
1. – Who are you?
2. – Everything that happens happens for a reason. ESPECIALLY in Eretz Yisrael. So what am I supposed to be learning from this whole situation?
April 17, 2008 at 3:53 pm
1. I’m Frum Punk. According to my avatar, I’m a cat with a mohawk. Probably not too far off.
2. You can’t assume EVERYTHING. Otherwise I could start pondering minutia and drive myself crazy. (Not that I’m calling your situation insignificant. I’m just saying that sometimes things just… are.)
All I could possibly assume is that seeing your former date now married with a kid on the way is a sign you should be getting married. But then, maybe thats just what you want to see.
April 17, 2008 at 11:27 pm
NO! All things are meaningful! There is stuff to learn! Frum punk doesn’t say it all. I am a frum punkette but there is more to me than meets the
I(pod)
April 18, 2008 at 4:30 pm
I am a dynamic figure, often seen scaling walls and crushing ice. I have been known to remodel train stations on my lunch breaks, making them more efficient in the area of heat retention. I translate ethnic slurs for Cuban refugees, I write award-winning operas, I manage time efficiently. Occasionally, I tread water for three days in a row.
I woo women with my sensuous and godlike trombone playing, I can pilot bicycles up severe inclines with unflagging speed, and I cook Thirty Minute Brownies in twenty minutes. I am an expert in stucco, a veteran in love, and an outlaw in Peru.
Using only a hoe and a large glass of water, I once single-handedly defended a small village in the Amazon Basin from a horde of ferocious army ants. I play bluegrass cello, I was scouted by the Mets. I am the subject of numerous documentaries. When I’m bored, I build large suspension bridges in my yard. I enjoy urban hang gliding. On Wednesdays, after school, I repair electrical appliances free of charge.
I am an abstract artist, a concrete analyst, and a ruthless bookie. Critics worldwide swoon over my original line of corduroy evening wear. I don’t perspire. I am a private citizen, yet I receive fan mail. I have been caller number nine and won the weekend passes. Last summer I toured New Jersey with a traveling centrifugal-force demonstration. I bat .400. My deft floral arrangements have earned me fame in international botany circles. Children trust me.
I can hurl tennis rackets at small moving objects with deadly accuracy. I once read Paradise Lost, Moby Dick, and David Copperfield in one day and still had time to refurbish an entire dining room that evening. I know the exact location of every food item in the supermarket. I have performed covert operations for the CIA. I sleep once a week; when I do sleep, I sleep in a chair. While on vacation in Canada, I successfully negotiated with a group of terrorists who had seized a small bakery. The laws of physics do not apply to me.
I balance, I weave, I dodge, I frolic, and my bills are all paid. On weekends, to let off steam, I participate in full-contact origami. Years ago I discovered the meaning of life but forgot to write it down. I have made extraordinary four-course meals using only a Mouli and a toaster oven. I breed prizewinning clams. I have won bullfights in San Juan, cliff-diving competitions in Sri Lanka, and spelling bees at the Kremlin. I have played Hamlet, I have performed open-heart surgery, and I have spoken with Elvis.
April 21, 2008 at 5:35 pm
That’s funny, I think we once corresponded on frumster.
April 21, 2008 at 10:42 pm
I don’t have a frumster account.
April 21, 2008 at 11:03 pm
Then I guess we didn’t. You must have an identical twin.
April 21, 2008 at 11:31 pm
So you kept asking who I was thinking we once chatted on frumster? You could have just asked me directly.
April 22, 2008 at 11:57 am
Nope, it didn’t occur to me until you made that posting. One of my missions over the past decade has been to find a frum punk band. I keep getting told that I can’t be frum AND a punk. I think I pull it off ok. (Though I am stronger on the frum than on the punk these days. B”H???) Anyway your name intrigued me.
April 22, 2008 at 12:57 pm
Ah. Well did you hear the three demos I posted from my band? Thats the most I can do for you tight now.
April 22, 2008 at 3:03 pm
What band? I find your site kind of hard to navigate.
April 22, 2008 at 3:04 pm
Quick, please, as sfirah is upon us!
April 22, 2008 at 3:08 pm
http://frumpunk.wordpress.com/2008/04/02/
I think I set it up nicely. You can click by month or hold the mouse over the calender date and it shows what posts were made that day. Also theres a search function.
April 22, 2008 at 3:09 pm
If it doesnt get through because of the link, look for “The Sound of Ears Breaking” on April 2nd.
April 22, 2008 at 3:39 pm
BTW are you and Hugh tight?
April 22, 2008 at 3:54 pm
Grant? Laurie?
April 22, 2008 at 4:05 pm
Gallagher.
April 22, 2008 at 4:07 pm
Talent borrows, genius steals.
April 22, 2008 at 4:08 pm
I feel like we’re IMing. Back to highschool.
April 22, 2008 at 4:11 pm
Rule #266: When in doubt, lie.
Rule #60: Keep your lies consistent.
I’d rather go with the 613.
April 22, 2008 at 4:11 pm
OMG! LOL!!
April 22, 2008 at 4:14 pm
My rule: If Oscar Wilde said it, go with it.
(Except for his… stranger inclinations.)
April 22, 2008 at 4:14 pm
Have I just labeled myself as a huge nerd? I am only familiar through friends..and an occasional indulgence.
April 22, 2008 at 4:17 pm
I am blissfully ignorant.
May 27, 2008 at 5:10 am
So what did you think of the songs?
November 12, 2009 at 7:50 pm
ok so did you two get married……